When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have
not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t
feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to
solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I ask is that you listen. Don’t talk or do—just hear me.
Advice is cheap; 20 cents will get
you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.
And I can do for myself; I am not helpless. Maybe discouraged and
faltering, but not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you
contribute to my fear and inadequacy.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I feel what I feel, no matter
how irrational, then I can stop tying to convince you and get a bout
this business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling.
And when that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what’s behind them.
So please listen, and just hear me.
And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn—and I will listen
to you. (Author Unknown)
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